By Ian | 16 October, 2012
The piece “Just Don’t Know How” is about the the feelings a father can have for his sons, in my case two great grown up sons.
Over the last seven years I have only been seeing them on and off. Last year I had the wish to see them both and spend a bit of time with them and the wish came true.
Its about the overwhelming power of emotions I had meeting them.
Are men allowed to cry?
“Men don’t cry” is a prevalent statement that comes to mind. A shit statement, but if you have been conditioned that way, it is difficult to show emotions. I have my difficulties but it is slowly getting better
Why did I have to write it? Because it’s something that happened that I don’t understand. And I am pleased it happened. I had to wait 40+ fucking years to see my father cry before I realised that he had deep feelings for me, that he loved me. Too long.
I hope that this piece motivates others to show their feelings.
If you are a father and you have these feelings - let them out. If your children see it - they can at least see that you have feelings and you are not some kind of ice block. And they can, perhaps in turn, show their kids their feelings and love (and vice versa).